About Me

 
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Welcome, I am so happy you're here!

I'm Lilia.

I know with every fiber of my being that we heal in relationship, so

it is my joy to co-create with you spaces of conversation and practices for healing and liberation.

I am passionate about coming together to become fiercely embodied and reclaim our wholeness and our full, unbridled life.

Let’s explore together what it is to be fiercely rooted in your body and to make the best choices for your healing and wellbeing, reclaiming ease and joy as part of our collective liberation from dis-embodiment. Together, we can counter the forces of performative health and cultivate connected self-care.

I show up to the work we do together fully, in radical presence and with an open heart.  I do my best to walk the walk and continue to learn every day. Both my training and my life experience have contributed to the skills and tools I share with you, and I have experienced the benefits in my own life of the practices I will invite you to experiment with and cultivate.

With more than 20,000 hours of clinical experience, I have helped hundreds of people heal, flourish, and reclaim a full, nourishing life. 

My consulting practice is rooted in intersectional feminism and grounded in the principles of Body Respect, Body Trust® and Health at Every Size® (HAES®). It is trauma informed and healing centered.

My favorite conversations touch on how our intersecting identities (including gender, race, culture, neurodiversity, different health conditions and mental health challenges), as well as experiences of loss and trauma, affect our experience of embodiment and our access to embodied wholeness, wellbeing, joy, and life giving boundaries. And for those of us who are professional caregivers (aka health providers), how all of this shows up in the work we do with others, so that we can collectively counter performative health and create a culture of body justice and liberation. 

I do my best work with women who do not identify as neuronorm, especially women who fall on the spectrum of “giftedness”, “twice exceptionality” and high sensitivity, i.e. my people (where I do not resonate with the conventional terms, I have used quotation marks; I’ve kept the terms because they are somewhat useful to describe certain characteristics).

My style is warm and gentle, but I do not shy away from the dark and deep wounds that need to be witnessed and healed. The work we will do together is brave and vulnerable. 

The words others most often use to describe me and my approach are: warm, compassionate, caring, fierce, empathetic, generous, brave, genuine, honest, insightful, intelligent, kind, open, and passionate.

My consulting specializes in embodiment practices, as well as mindfulness and compassion-based approaches.

I share my musings via my newsletter.*

*The frequency of my newsletter is highly variable, in line with my natural ebbs and flows.

My Training and Experience 

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This is a selfie I took as part of a wonderful workshop with  Vivienne McMaster  from  Be Your Own Beloved  - if you don't know Vivienne yet, do  check out her work . The prompt was to explore power poses and let the camera catch us with the timer. After trying with the more typical ones (legs and arms spread or 'superhero pose'), which felt kind of contrived, and didn't resonate with me, I started practicing some yoga poses, connecting to a feeling of rootedness and being centered and cultivating lovingkindness. So this is me in tree pose (though you can't see my legs), feeling deeply connected to the earth, honoring my more quiet and gentle style and being fiercely rooted in my body.

This is a selfie I took as part of a wonderful workshop with Vivienne McMaster from Be Your Own Beloved - if you don't know Vivienne yet, do check out her work. The prompt was to explore power poses and let the camera catch us with the timer. After trying with the more typical ones (legs and arms spread or 'superhero pose'), which felt kind of contrived, and didn't resonate with me, I started practicing some yoga poses, connecting to a feeling of rootedness and being centered and cultivating lovingkindness. So this is me in tree pose (though you can't see my legs), feeling deeply connected to the earth, honoring my more quiet and gentle style and being fiercely rooted in my body.

I am a physician (MD) and licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 15+ years clinical experience helping people with struggles with food and eating, depression, anxiety, trauma, loss, chronic pain and illness, and experiences of dis-embodiment. 

I am intimately familiar with bodyminds and our healing processes, and how we can relate to, nourish and take care of ourselves and our bodies in ways that can bring us closer to embodied wellbeing, radical presence, fierce embodiment and joy. 

I am an eating disorders specialist and clinical supervisor; mindfulness, compassion and mindful eating instructor; certified therapeutic and restorative yoga teacher; death doula; bereavement counselor; Certified Body Trust® Provider; and Healthy Boundaries for Kind People Coach and Facilitator. I've also completed postgraduate training in medical family therapy and body psychotherapy. 

I am known for pioneering mindful eating and weight inclusive care in the Spanish speaking world, as well as for bringing together radical care paradigms in the field of mind-body medicine. 

My consulting practice is at the intersection of different healing modalities, centering your lived experience and your bodymind as a source of knowing, with a depth and scope very few providers can offer you.

I am deeply and unwaveringly committed to ethical behavior and, above all, doing no harm. You can read my ethical statement here.

This website is for my consulting services. If you are interested in a medical or mental health consultation, please visit my clinical website

Getting a Little More Personal...

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I am Mexican. My heritage is a mosaic of different cultures, and I identify as Latina. I'm an avid amateur cook, baker, and foodie. I adore spending time reading in silence, and also spending time outdoors in nature - preferably without tons of people around. I love deep 1:1 conversations and spending time with dear friends. My partner and I have chosen to be child-free, and we share our home with our beloved cats, Thomas, Ziggy and Lupito.

I am a highly sensitive person (HSP) and an INFJ or 'Advocate' personality on the Myers-Briggs inventory. I am also what is known as "twice exceptional", with "high giftedness" and sensory processing and modulation differences (where I do not resonate with the conventional terms, I have used quotation marks; I’ve kept the terms because they are somewhat useful to describe certain characteristics). All of this means that I am deeply acquainted with the experience of living with intensity and complexity, and of thinking, feeling, and processing things differently. I am also unfortunately quite familiar with the pressure to conform and disconnect from myself, and the trauma that comes from living in a world that does not cater to my uniqueness, resulting in significant mental health challenges.

My own life experiences with developmental and complex trauma, depression, anxiety, neurodivergence and chronic pain, together with a healing journey that has involved extensive psychotherapy and mind-body practices, have shaped the way I approach my suffering and that of others. I consider it my privilege, purpose and deepest source of fulfillment to be able to witness and support others in their own healing path.

If you'd like to read more about how these experiences have shaped, and continue to shape, my experience of embodiment join my newsletter.

You'll also get book recommendations and the occasional (OK, maybe frequent) poem or quote. 

My Influences, Teachers and Lineage

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Throughout my life, I have found belonging in a tradition of rebels in academia and the health professions. Although it would be impossible to include all of the people whose teachings and support have shaped my approach and helped me in my own healing journey, I do want to acknowledge some whose influence is most salient for me at the moment.

Lucy Aphramor, Radical Dietitian and Poet, whose work in critical dietetics and Body Respect, and embodiment of warmth and love continues to inspire and challenge me;

Hilary Kinavey and Dana Sturtevant, from Be Nourished, co-creators of the Body Trust® approach and radical healers and activists in the field of body liberation;

Rev. Angel Kyodo Williams and Lama Rod Owens, from Radical Dharma, whose teachings on race, love, healing and liberation have been eye and heart opening;

Jan Chozen Bays, Roshi, who embodies compassion, curiosity and joy and taught me how to eat mindfully;

Carmen Cool, her teachings on therapy and activism and fiercely warm and generous presence have modeled a way of being-in-relationship;

Randi Buckley, whose teachings on Healthy Boundaries for Kind People have been life changing;

Jillian Pransky, who brings together yoga and loving kindness and has taught me how to find ease in my body in the presence of pain and illness;

Bessel van der Kolk, whose revolutionary work on developmental trauma gave me words to name my experience;

Gabor Mate, and his revolutionary approach to mind-body medicine and linking addiction and mental illness to trauma, loss, and oppression;

Niva Piran and her Developmental Theory of Embodiment, describing the way social processes shape our experiences in our bodies;

 

In my own healing and learning, I have been strongly influenced by the teachings of Buddhism, and have practiced meditation and yoga for 20+ years. This practice has literally saved my life.

What I Believe

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“Without inner change there can be no outer change. Without collective change, no change matters.” 

― Angel Kyodo Williams

 

I believe we are already whole.

I believe we are all deserving of our full, unbridled life. 

I believe all bodies are worthy and deserving of care, dignity, respect and kindness.

I believe true healing can only be found in connection and radical acceptance.

My unwavering commitments are to fierce love, compassion and liberation, vulnerability, authenticity, and radical presence.

I Want a World Where....

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...It is safe to live in any and every body

...All bodies are treated as worthy and deserving of care, dignity, respect and kindness

...Every human being can claim enough space and is truly seen and heard

...All forms of body oppression, including diet mentality, are forever eradicated, and we learn to honor and celebrate the diversity of bodies

...We learn to show up and embrace all of our precious life

...We learn to listen to the quiet whispers of our body

...We can all come home safely to our body again and again

...No one is blamed or shamed for their illness or their pain

...No one’s health condition is attributed to their weight

...Our notion of health encompasses mind, body, emotions, spirit, society and earth

...Wellbeing and wholeness are rights we cultivate collectively

...Every person’s body autonomy is respected and honored

...Health providers treat people who consult them from a place of care and respect, and not from their ego’s need to be stroked or from their own discomfort

...We all find the expansiveness to heal

...We all have permission to have boundaries that create space for our authentic being

…We all get to be unapologetically and fully ourselves

...We learn to honor our own needs and then contribute to collective healing and liberation

...We come to a place of self-care as a way to relate to self, and not one more thing on the to-do list

...Our yes’s and no’s come from joy, spontaneity, authenticity and courage, not from fear or scarcity

...We all grow collectively in ease and joy, and find liberation from suffering

...Every human being is radically nourished

...Every human being is Fiercely Embodied

...Every human being reclaims their wholeness, and their full, unbridled life

...Love is our path, liberation is our aspiration

My Deepest Wish and Prayer

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May we all become free from anxiety and fear in our bodies.

May we all be safe.

May we all find ease and joy in our bodies.

May we all wholly nourish this precious human body and mind.

May we all be able to gift ourselves and each other radical presence and acceptance.

May we all rise rooted in loving kindness and compassion.

May we all come into being Fiercely Embodied.

May we all reclaim our wholeness and our full, unbridled life. 

May all our hearts be open and brave as we walk the path of awakening and liberation.

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